Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Fireplace with Christmas music

To all my family and friends, my thoughts and prayers are with you always....May your holidays be filled with the spirit and joy of Christmas! Be safe Be happy Be loved! God bless you all.

The Reason For The Season

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Happy Heavenly Birthday Ryan.....

There’s an elephant in the room.

There’s an elephant in the room.
It is large and squatting,
so it is hard to get around it.

Yet, we squeeze by with, 
"how are you" and "I’m fine..."
and a thousand other forms of
trivial chatter.
we talk about everything else
except the elephant in the room.

We all know it’s there.
We are thinking about the 
elephant as we talk.

It is constantly on our minds.
For you see, it is a very
big elephant.
But we do not talk about
the elephant in the room.

Oh, please, somebody say
my child’s name
Oh, please, say it again
Oh, please, let’s talk about
the elephant in the room.

For if we talk about their death,
perhaps we can talk about
their life.

Can I say their name...
and not have you look away?
For if I cannot,
you are leaving me alone...
In a room...
with an elephant.
~Author Unknown~
December 19, 1977 ~ March 31, 1978 

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Happy Birthday Ron :)

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Come See
Ron's Birthday Pages that I made for him...
 Just ~ Click Here


Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Keep the Faith....

Praying for EVERYONE whom have lost their homes/property, loved ones in any of the storms across this country and overseas.....My heart aches for all of you. Our Deepest Sympathy goes out to ALL.

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Lawsuit Challenges Wisconsin Fetal Protection Measure Known as “Cocaine Mom” Act | The Partnership at

For the babies sake and the Mothers.....This should be Law in EVERY State, except it should be more like a facility that houses these women and can help them get clean!!!!! Jail would not do that, it would cause more harm than good. These children are our future, why wouldn't it be important enough to help them!

Lawsuit Challenges Wisconsin Fetal Protection Measure Known as “Cocaine Mom” Act | The Partnership at

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Halloween Pics 2013

It was a cold, windy  and wet "Halloween" night but it did not stop the children from going door to door.  We had our own little "Pirate" handing out our candy for us.  And what he didn't eat he gave away.  God Bless Him....We love you "Arrrrrr Matty!"
Oh yes let's not forget "Morgy Skeletor!!" The family dogggggg!!! Booooooooooo to all of youssssss!!!!!! Hope everyone had a Safe & Happy Halloween!

Friday, October 18, 2013

Update on RyRy's Health...

Well RyRy has an Upper Respiratory Infection and an Ear Infection.  They can't give him antibiotics for the URI because it is caused by a virus, but they can give him medicine for his ear infection.  
So last night was the very first night that RyRy didn't run a fever of 103.2....which really seemed great and he slept the whole night thru.   The Dr. said he could go back to school on Monday....he has been out for a week.  All I can say is Thank you LORD!  And of course Thank you Doctors and Nurses....God Bless You.

Of course you can't be around a sick child without getting a little sick Grandpa and I are doctoring a sore throat, headache, cough and some more unpleasantness of being sick.  Needless to say life must go while it does I will be
kicking back with a cup of chai latte tea (oh so good) and well poor Grandpa well he continues to go to work in spite of it all, the man is a workhorse....God Bless Him.  He never cease to amaze us. But as he would say it, "I do it because I Love You!"

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

It is just gorgeous outside....

Just wish we felt it inside here....RyRy has been sick since last week.  What a week it was....Talk with the Law Guardian, Family Court, Anniversary, Birthday, Parent/Teacher Conference and Picture Day!  With all this going on this child seems to have a cough that just won't go away.  I believe or at least am thinking he will have to go back to having breathing treatments again.  People who say "You love him!"....Well without mentioning any names for you know who you really need to quit smoking around him...especially since you know that he has asthma and the Judge told everyone to not smoke around him!!!!   I will take him to the Dr.s again....seems like every time you turn around this poor child just doesn't get a break.  My heart goes out to him....Love ya buddy...Nana is trying really hard to get you back on your feet!

Wednesday, September 25, 2013

The recent news

Editors note: Judy Ho is a licensed psychologist, professor, researcher and media consultant.  She teaches at Pepperdine University. Her professional website is Dr.Judy Ho, and she is on Twitter.

The recent news about 18-year-old Isabella Yun-Mi Guzman, accused of fatally stabbing her mother 79 times in the face andneck in the bathroom of their Colorado home, has shaken many in the Aurora community. There were ongoing relational issues between Isabella and her mother, but how did it escalate to  such a violent act? In the aftermath, some of us might be thinking, could this happen to me and my family? Was there something her parents, other family members, or concerned friends and neighbors could have done to prevent this?

I believe there is a strong possibility that Isabella had a mental illness that her family and friends were not fully aware of. Most mentally ill people are not violent; however, some of the more severe disorders that might involve paranoia or delusions could lead someone to commit violent acts because their perceptions are incredibly skewed and they are not in touch with reality.

Mental illness in youth can be difficult to identify, and many parents don’t know the signs and symptoms of mental illness in young children. Concerns about the stigma associated with mental illness and the cost of treatment may also prevent parents from seeking care for a child who might be mentally ill.

As a result, many youth who could benefit from treatment don’t get the help they need.  Here, I offer some guidance on what signs to look for and some resources to ensure that you are protecting yourself and your loved ones.

Abnormal behaviors that might suggest your child needs professional help

    Mood changes:

Look for sadness, withdrawal, or severe mood swings that cause problems at home and/or school. Crying  spells, severe bouts of tantrum, or disinterest in things they used to care about and enjoy are other warning signs.

    Behavior changes:

This includes drastic changes in personality and out-of-control behavior. Physical fighting, using weapons, running away from home or expressing a desire to badly hurt others are warning signs.

    Problems at school:

Suddenly dropping grades, a large number of tardies and truancies, and other disciplinary actions at school are often seen.

    Physical harm:

Sometimes a mental health condition leads to suicidal thoughts or actual attempts at self-harm or suicide. Sometimes young people will cut on their bodies, so watch for lacerations, especially on arms and legs.

    Substance use:

Some kids use alcohol or drugs to try to numb their feelings or escape reality.


Watch to see if your teen suddenly starts to keep information from you or evade questioning about what they are doing on a daily basis.  Warning signs for violent behaviors in children/Youth who have several risk factors and show the following red flag behaviors should be carefully evaluated.

Risk factors:

Research studies have shown that a combination of
factors lead to an increased risk of violent behavior in youth. These include:

    Previous aggressive or violent behavior
    Being the victim of physical abuse,
    sexual abuse or bullying
    Exposure to violence in the home or at school
    Use of drugs and/or alcohol, Stressful family factors
    such as poverty, divorce, unemployment

Red flag behaviors: Seeing some of these behaviors over a period of time (for example, one to two months) in a somewhat consistent fashion is very concerning, especially if it is different from how the child used to behave.

    Intense anger
    Extreme irritability
    Extreme impulsiveness
    Low frustration tolerance
    Frequent loss of temper that seems out of
    proportion with the event

What can parents do?
Don’t minimize these problems if you observe any of the above warning signs that your child might need professional help, or if you see a large number of the risk factors occurring with several of the red flag behaviors. It can be very scary to think about what needs to be done in these cases, but there are many resources that can help you make sense of what’s going on and provide you with a step-by-step plan of how to solve the situation. Here is a list of 24-hour hotlines that can provide emotional support for you and your child, and help to refer you to no-cost or low-cost professional care options in your community. Most importantly, don’t wait if you have concerns. Every minute is valuable and can help to protect you and your loved ones.

    National Parent Helpline –

Help for Parents
        (855) 4APARENT
    Domestic Violence Hotline
        (800) 799-SAFE

crisis line for youth, teens and families
        (800) 999-9999


HOTLINE – referrals for shelters
and counseling in your area
        (800) 799-7233
        (800) 543-7283
        (800) HIT-HOME

Sunday, September 22, 2013



While walking in a toy store
The day before today,
I over heard a Crayon Box
With many things to say.

"I don't like red!" said Yellow.
And Green said, "Nor do I!"
And no one here likes Orange,
But no one knows quite why.

"We are a box of crayons
that really doesn't get along,"
Said Blue to all the others.
"Something here is wrong!"

Well, I bought that box of crayons
And took it home with me.
And laid out all the crayons
So the crayons could all see.

They watched me as I colored
With Red and Blue and Green.
And Black and White and Orange
And every color in between.

They watched as Green became the grass
And Blue became the sky.
The Yellow sun was shining bright
On White clouds drifting by.

Colors changing as they touched,
Becoming something new.
They watched me as I colored.
They watched till I was through.

And when I'd finally finished,
I began to walk away.
And as I did the Crayon box.

Had something more to say........
"I do like Red! " said the Yellow.
And Green said, "So do I !"
And Blue you are terrific!

"So high up in the sky."
"We are a Box of Crayons
Each of us unique,
And when we get together.

The picture is complete"

Friday, August 30, 2013

Wow It's Labor Day Weekend already.....



If nobody smiled and nobody
cheered and nobody helped us along;
If every man looked after himself
and good things all went to the strong;
If nobody cared just a little for you,
and nobody thought about me
And we all stood alone in the battle
of life, what a dreary old world this would be!

Life is sweet because of the friends we've made.
All things in common we share.
We want to live on, not because of ourselves,
but because of the people who care.
It's giving and doing for somebody else
on that all life's splendor depends;
And the joy of the world when you sum it all up,
is formed in the making of friends.

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Your Future Ex-Husband.....

The best way to avoid divorce,
even before you get married, is
to understand the power of the
"R" word, i.e., rationalization.
This is the process of trying to
create a sense of logic for
something that we know is wrong.
Oftentimes it is the quicksand
that devours our ability to
reason in the first few weeks
and months of dating.
When someone asks me to describe
my new book, How to Recognize
Your Future Ex-Husband in two
sentences or less, this is what
I tell them. The essence of the
book is about understanding the
rationalization process and how
it obstructs our ability to
identify the early warning signs
of trouble ahead.
Here are three of the numerous
"domains" of dating where
rationalization shows up most
Anger: A man who is too angry
too often (and too early in the
relationship) may be emotionally
unstable. Anger can make us feel
less vulnerable and will often
impersonate intimacy. Genuine
intimacy is about trust and
feeling safe, and it is
impossible to experience either
with someone who is angry most
of the time. Rage should never
be a first-line response. So
don't try to spin it like his
ease in expressing anger is
indicative of how he feels close
enough to be authentic. In fact,
if he says something like this
to you--run--he is definitely a
future ex-husband!

Boundaries: While the nature of
romance is about the blurring of
boundaries (two become one,
etc.), it is very important to
establish boundaries early on
because they ultimately provide
a solid foundation in which to
cultivate a deeper commitment.

One time a friend of mine was
dating a man who constantly ate
off of her plate and sipped her
wine whenever they went out to
eat. On the first date she
politely told him that she was a
bit germ-phobic and didn't like
to share her food or drink. This
admission made him feel hurt and
put-off, so instead of
respecting her request, he
continued to sip her Pinot Noir
and munch on her pickles and
coleslaw. Don't rationalize that
this isn't a big deal in
relation to all of the other
wonderful things he does for
you. What is most important here
is his response to your stated
preference. If he doesn't
respect it, he is definitely a
future ex-husband.

Money: In our culture, money is
the code word for love and
power, and we often worship
wealth with complete disregard
to character. Rich people can be
stingy, and often cannot give
easily of themselves
emotionally. What seems
tolerable in the beginning
becomes a source of conflict
later on. The other side the
coin is buying gifts and
showing-off. An expensive piece
of jewelry on the third date
should trigger an alarm. Again,
don't rationalize that he is
simply a generous person who
shouldn't be demonized for
having affluent tastes. His
showering you with baubles or
pricey dinners is more about
him, and what he needs to do to
feel good about him. This is a
signal that there may be a huge
amount of narcissism looming--a
definite marker of future "ex-

There are many more examples of
how this process and the
destruction that it leaves in
its path. However, it can be
averted. If you have been
divorced or repeatedly
disappointed in love, it is
important to understand how and
why you succumb to the
rationalization process so
easily. Here, awareness is
everything and can quickly halt
unproductive behavior patterns.

Let's practice. If on the first
date he says something like
"will the children have your
nose or mine?"--excuse yourself
politely, call your best friend,
and say "I think I've just
recognized my future ex-huband!"

Debra Weiner is the author of
How to Recognize Your Future Ex
-Husband, and is a Managing
Partner of Aventine Co., which
produces the annual PAINWeek®
national conference.

Follow Debra Weiner on Twitter: and
visit her on the Web at

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Keep Believing....

Believing in Yourself

There may be days
when you get up in the morning
and things aren't the way
you had hoped they would be.

That's when you have to 
tell yourself that things will get better.
There are times when people
disappoint you and let you down.

But those are the times
when you must remind yourself
to trust your own judgments and opinions, 
to keep your life focused on believing in yourself.

There will be challenges to face
and changes to make in your life,
and it is up to you to accept them.

Constantly keep yourself headed
in the right direction for you.
It may not be easy at times,
but in those times of struggle
you will find a stronger sense of who you are.

So when the days come that are filled
with frustration and unexpected responsibilities,
remember to believe in yourself
and all you want your life to be.

Because the challenges and changes 
will only help you to find the goals
that you know are meant to come true for you.

Keep Believing in Yourself!

Friday, June 21, 2013

Meet Me In The Meadow....

There will never be a time when you will find God’s power inadequate, His love indifferent, or His grace insufficient. - Roy Lessin

Sunday, June 16, 2013

On The Funny Side of Parenthood!!!!!

Parenting Tips..

Thinking of having kids? Do this 11 step program first!

Lesson 1
1. Go to the grocery store.
2. Arrange to have your salary paid directly to their head office.
3. Go home.
4. Pick up the paper.
5. Read it for the last time.

Lesson 2
Before you finally go ahead and have children, find a couple who
already are parents and berate them about their...

1. Methods of discipline.
2. Lack of patience.
3. Appallingly low tolerance levels.
4. Allowing their children to run wild.
5. Suggest ways in which they might improve their child's
   breastfeeding, sleep habits, toilet training, table manners, and overall
   behavior. Enjoy it because it will be the last time in your life you will have all the answers.

Lesson 3
A really good way to discover how the nights might feel...

1. Get home from work and immediately begin walking around the living
   room from 5PM to 10PM carrying a wet bag weighing approximately 8-12
   pounds, with a radio turned to static (or some other obnoxious sound)
   playing loudly. (Eat cold food with one hand for dinner)
2. At 10PM, put the bag gently down, set the alarm for midnight, and go to sleep.
3. Get up at 12 and walk around the living room again, with the bag, until 1AM.
4. Set the alarm for 3AM.
5. As you can't get back to sleep, get up at 2AM and make a drink and watch an infomercial.
6. Go to bed at 2:45AM.
7. Get up at 3AM when the alarm goes off.
8. Sing songs quietly in the dark until 4AM.
9. Get up. Make breakfast. Get ready for work and go to work (work hard and be productive)
10.Repeat steps 1-9 each night.   Keep this up for 3-5 years.  Look cheerful and together.

Lesson 4
Can you stand the mess children make? To find out...

1. Smear peanut butter onto the sofa and jam onto the curtains.
2. Hide a piece of raw chicken behind the stereo and leave it there all summer.
3. Stick your fingers in the flower bed.
4. Then rub them on the clean walls.
5. Take your favorite book, photo album, etc. Wreck it.
6. Spill milk on your new pillows. Cover the stains with crayons. How
   does that look?

Lesson 5
Dressing small children is not as easy as it seems.

1. Buy an octopus and a small bag made out of loose mesh.
2. Attempt to put the octopus into the bag so that none of the arms
   hang out. Time allowed for this - all morning.

Lesson 6
Forget the BMW and buy a mini-van. And don't think that you can leave it out
in the driveway spotless and shining. Family cars don't look like that.

1. Buy a chocolate ice cream cone and put it in the glove compartment. Leave it there.
2. Get a dime. Stick it in the CD player.
3. Take a family size package of chocolate cookies. Mash them into the back seat.
   Sprinkle cheerios all over the floor, then smash them with
   your foot.
4. Run a garden rake along both sides of the car.

Lesson 7
Go to the local grocery store. Take with you the closest thing you can find to a
pre-school child. (A full-grown goat is an excellent choice). If you intend to have
more than one child, then definitely take more than one goat. Buy your week's
groceries without letting the goats out of your sight. Pay for everything the goat
eats or destroys. Until you can easily accomplish this, do not even contemplate having children.

Lesson 8
1. Hollow out a melon.
2. Make a small hole in the side.
3. Suspend it from the ceiling and swing it from side to side.
4. Now get a bowl of soggy Cheerios and attempt to spoon them into the swaying melon
    by pretending to be an airplane.
5. Continue until half the Cheerios are gone.
6. Tip half into your lap. The other half, just throw up in the air. 
    You are now ready to feed a nine-month-old baby.

Lesson 9
Learn the names of every character from Sesame Street, Barney, Disney, the Teletubbies,
and Pokemon.  Watch nothing else on TV but PBS, the Disney channel, NickJr.,
Sprout or Noggin for at least five years.
(I know, you're thinking What's 'Noggin'?) Exactly the point.

Lesson 10
Make a recording of Fran Drescher saying 'mommy' and or 'daddy' repeatedly.
(Important: no more than a four second delay between each 'mommy'; occasional crescendo
to the level of a supersonic jet is required).  Play this tape in your car everywhere you
go for the next four years.  You are now ready to take a long trip with a toddler.

Lesson 11
Start talking to an adult of your choice. Have someone else
continually tug on your skirt hem, shirt- sleeve, or elbow while playing the
'mommy/daddy' tape made from Lesson 10 above. You are now ready to  have a conversation
with an adult while there is a child in the room.

This is all very tongue in cheek; anyone who is parent will say 'it's all worth it!'
Share it with your friends, both those who do and don't have kids. I guarantee they'll
get a chuckle out of it. Remember, a sense of humor is one of the most important
things you'll need when you become a parent/step parent!

Happy Father's Day!

Life is not about being rich, being popular, being highly educated, or being perfect. It is about being real, being humble, being strong, and being able to share ourselves and touch the lives of others. It is only then that we can have a full, happy and contented life.

Let God Choose
As for God, His way is perfect! Psalm 18:30
Let God choose for you, it will be the right decision.
Let God guide you, it will be the right direction.
Let God plan for you, it will be in the right timing.
Let God measure for you, it will be the right portion.
Let God help you, it will be the right care.
Let God instruct you, it will be the right teaching.
Let God prepare you, it will be the right training.
Let God counsel you, it will be the right perspective.
Let God fight for you, it will be the right outcome.
Let God work in you, it will be the right result.

-Roy Lessin,  Day Spring co-founder and writer

Friday, May 17, 2013


yOU FINALLY Conquered "Potty Training" and I know it could only be by the Grace Of GOD that you have!!!!!!  God Bless You Child....God Bless You!  You also were one of forty one children picked for Pre-K in September......This is AWESOME!!!!!!

We are ALL so Proud of YOU!!!!!!

Sunday, May 12, 2013

"Happy Mother's Day!"

Happy Mother's Day to my Mom and Daughter, Mother-n-Law, Daughter-n-Laws and Sister-n-Laws doesn't matter if your children have two feet or four! My wish for you all is full of Love and Happiness!  Hope your day was filled with all that you have given through out your life and more. All of you are all in my heart and in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless You All!

A Mother's Day Prayer for You 
May you have all the joy your heart can hold... 
All the smiles a day can bring All the blessings a 
life can unfold may you have God's best in everything! 
Have a Wonderful Day 

The blessing of the Lord be upon you. 
Psalm 129:8 

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Hello...My name is "Drugs!"

Hello, my name is DRUGS – I destroy homes, tear families apart, take your children, and that’s just the start. I’m more costly than diamonds, more costly than gold, the sorrow I bring is a sight to behold. and if you need me, remember I’m easily found, I live all around you, in schools and in town. I live with the rich, I live with the poor, I live down the street, and maybe next door. My power is awesome; try me you’ll see, but if you do, you may NEVER break free. Just try me once and I might let you go, but try me twice, and I’ll own your soul. When I possess you, you’ll steal and you’ll lie. You do what you have to just to get high. The crimes you’ll commit, for my narcotic charms will be worth the pleasure you’ll feel in your arms. You’ll lie to your mother; you’ll steal from your dad When you see their tears, you should feel sad. But you’ll forget your morals and how you were raised, I’ll be your conscience, I’ll teach you my ways. I take kids from parents, and parents from kids, I turn people from god, and separate friends. I’ll take everything from you, your looks and your pride, I’ll be with you always, right by your side. You’ll give up everything… your family, your home… your friends, your money, then you’ll be alone. I’ll take and take, till you have nothing more to give. When I’m finished with you you’ll be lucky to live. If you try me be warned this is no game. If given the chance, I’ll drive you insane. I’ll ravish your body; I’ll control your mind. I’ll own you completely; your soul will be mine. The nightmares I’ll give you while lying in bed, the voices you’ll hear from inside your head, the sweats, the shakes, the visions you’ll see; I want you to know, these are all gifts from me, But then it’s too late, and you’ll know in your heart, that you are mine, and we shall not part. You’ll regret that you tried me, they always do, but you came to me, not I to you. You knew this would happen. Many times you were told, but you challenged my power, and chose to be bold. You could have said no, and just walked away, If you could live that day over, now what would you say? I’ll be your master; you will be my slave, I’ll even go with you, when you go to your grave. Now that you have met me , what will you do? Will you try me or not? Its all up to you. I can bring you more misery than words can tell. Come take my hand, I’ll take you to hell!
It is not a Joke, Please share these words with those that need to hear it! 
Here is a link below that may also be helpful!
Narconon (Drug Rehabilitation Program) 

Sunday, March 31, 2013

Happy Easter to all my friends & family!

"Father, forgive them… For they know not what they do."

Don't miss the epic finale of The Bible Series Sunday night at 8/7c on History.

For God so loved the world,
that he gave his only begotten Son,
that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
~ John 3:16 ~
I am the Way the Truth and The Life.
     ~John 14:6

Come Visit

In Memory of my Infant Son Ryan
12/19/1977    ~    03/31/1978


fly little wing
Fly beyond imagining.

The softest cloud,
the whitest dove.
Upon the wind of heaven’s love.

Past the planets and the stars,
Leave this lonely world of ours.
Escape the sorrow and the pain.
And fly again,

fly precious one.

Your endless journey has begun,
Take your gentle happiness.
Far too beautiful for this world,
Cross over to the other shore,

There is peace forevermore.
But hold this memory bittersweet,
Until we meet once more.

fly do not fear,

Don’t waste a breath, don’t shed a tear.
Your heart is pure, your soul is free.
Be on your way, don’t wait for me.

Above the universe you’ll climb,
On beyond the hands of time.
The moon will rise, the sun will set,
But I will not forget.

Fly, fly little wing,
Fly where only angels sing,
Fly away, the time is right.

Go now, find the light.
Come visit Ryan's Memorial Site